Remember the last time you were invited to something you didn’t want to attend?

And you responded –

Maybe I can…

Let me look at my calendar…

Sounds great, but I’m not sure…

Do you know what all of these have in common?

A lack of clarity and boundaries.  

Why was it so hard to just say “NO”?

When it comes to setting boundaries, the most asked question is “How do I do it so that I do not come across as mean or rude?”

It is about being clear, respectful, and firm while still showing kindness and empathy. Here’s how you can do it:

✅ Be Clear & Direct - Avoid vague or passive-aggressive language.

✅ Use “I” Statements - This keeps the focus on your needs rather than blaming others.

✅ Show Empathy While Holding Your Ground - Acknowledge the other person’s feelings, but don’t back down.

✅ Don’t Over-Explain or Apologize Too Much - You don’t owe a long justification for your boundaries. Remember, “No” is a complete sentence.

✅ Use a Warm but Firm Tone - You can be kind and assertive at the same time.

Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away—they’re about maintaining healthy, balanced relationships. There are several reasons why setting boundaries is important:

1️⃣ They protect your mental, emotional, and physical health. You are less likely to become overwhelmed, distraught, or physically exhausted. 

2️⃣ They help improve relationships by creating healthier, more balanced relationships by setting clear expectations. 

3️⃣  They prevent toxic situations. Manipulative, controlling, or disrespectful people are much less likely to take advantage of you.

🦋Our mission at The Wisdom Well is to support you in moving from a life of coping to a life of THRIVING.  

🦋Because you are important and your purpose is necessary.

🦋Because we believe in you!